Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Let's all just get along!
When I first started making bento, I did it badly. I mean really badly. I was new and enthusiastic but my skills were not quite there yet. It took time and practice to become better. While I was learning I met lots of bento mamas with waaayyy better skills than I had. They could have torn me apart with my sad ugly bento lunches and I probably would never have made another lunch again. But they didn't. They chose to build me up and encourage me. I was inspired by them and learned so many new things.
The world is full of a lot of meanness. We see school bullying becoming a huge problem in the media now. The internet is a wonderful tool but it can also bring with it a lot of hurt. Words are powerful. It doesn't matter if you speak them or type them. They make an impact....sometimes in ways we could never imagine.
Recently, lots of my bento buddies and I have been seeing a trend towards negative comments about what we do. From the snarky to the downright cruel, people seem to think that anything that pops into their heads should be put down as a comment. Does it really matter to you if I have a job outside of the home? If I have one child or 10? We all have the same number of hours in a day and the great thing is we get to choose how we spend them. I like to make bento lunches for my son. I'm not asking you to make them. Do you have a right to be nasty and horrible to people? Yepp, you do. Does that mean you should do it? Uhm, no.
Everyone in this world wants some of the basic things. We want to belong and have people like us. You don't have to like me or understand why I do what I do. We can all be polite even when we don't completely understand each other. I would like to see more people making a decision to build each other up instead of tearing each other down. It's not really so hard.
So before you make a comment, just think! Will this be helpful or am I doing potential harm to someone? If it's the latter....maybe you could just pass on by without saying a thing.
*ahem* *steps off soapbox* Sorry for this all text post, more fun lunches coming later this week :)